March 26, 2015
NOTRE DAME, Ind. (AP) Notre Dame coach Mike Brey walked into the locker room shortly before tipoff against Butler and told his players that someone in the hotel had asked him why he had been smiling all day.
”You know why?” he told his players. ”Because I have a great team, baby. I’ve got a great team.”
After the game, Brey burst into the locker room and shouted to his players, ”Is it past midnight?”
”It is,” a player shouted back.
”Well it’s my birthday and that’s a hell of a birthday present. Thank you so much,” the 56-year-old coach said moments after the Irish beat Butler 67-64 in overtime early Sunday morning to advance to the Sweet 16 in the NCAA Tournament for the first time since 2003.
The self-described ”loosest coach in America” showed no signs of the long day he had endured until 20 minutes after the game was over and his players had time to savor their accomplishment. That’s when athletic director Jack Swarbrick told the Irish about the loss of Brey’s 84-year-old mother, Betty, who passed away Saturday morning.
Swarbrick said that is typical Brey.
”It shows how he feels about his kids,” Swarbrick said. ”That’s so preeminent with him, not wanting to be a distraction or not being available to his kids.”
Brey said he never thought about skipping the game, saying his brother encouraged him to stay with the team, saying ”Dad’s great. We’ve got him over the house. … Beat Butler.”
Brey said he knew it’s what his mother would have wanted. She swam at Purdue and competed in the 1956 Olympics. She later was a swim coach at George Washington University.
”An unbelievable woman, a woman ahead of her time and probably the real driving force behind everything I’ve done,” Brey said.
Brey’s father, Paul, was a high school athletic director. Brey talks frequently about two of his mentors, DeMatha High School coach Morgan Wooten, whom Brey coached under for five years in Hyattsville, Maryland, and Duke coach Mike Krzyzewski, whom he coached under for eight years. But he said his two biggest mentors were his parents.
”I grew up with two of the best educators ever,” Brey said. ”Every kid that they touched, whether the swimming pool they ran in the summer or as high school educators, loved them. I learned a lot right there, that their pupils loved them. I tried to emulate my mom and dad as far as how I interact with people.”
Swarbrick said Brey’s parents would have wanted their son to be with his players.
”That was their lives. They were coaches. They were teachers,” he said. ”People always say, `Well they would have wanted me to do it.’ In this case, they would have wanted him to do. That’s what they did. That’s what they taught him to do. So in a very tangible way he was honoring his parents by doing that.”
Brey traveled to Orlando, Florida, on Sunday to be with his father and his brother and sister. He returned to South Bend in the early hours Monday and coached the team at practice. He didn’t talk with the media on Monday.
The university announced that the family was planning a memorial service in the Washington, D.C., area, most likely in June.
Team captain Pat Connaughton said Brey told the players when he got on the team bus that he would talk to them about his mother at the hotel. Connaughton sat next to Brey, put his arm around him and let him ”know we’re here for him, that we love him and we know how much he’s done for us,” the senior said.
At the hotel, Brey told the players about his mother.
”He told us about how much she meant to him, how much she’s done throughout her life and how she was with him every step of the way,” Connaughton said.
Connaughton said Brey told the team at practice Monday he had a good day with his family and the players again told him how sorry they were for his loss. He told them he appreciated it and that he wanted to focus on basketball.
Swarbrick gave Brey a giant hug after the game because he knew what Brey had been through.
”I probably would have given him a hug anyway, but it was a little different hug because I knew what the day had been like,” Swarbrick said.